Hi all!
Well, recently I returned home and you quickly notice that the biggest difference between your hostel and your home is the presence of that earthly creature that is, your mom. :D There are many kinds of moms around. If you observe closely you can see these features in some mothers.
The mothers who smother-
There are mothers who smother their children with affection( please read: more than required). Yes, more than required. They always think the kids are the apple of their eyes and they need to satisfy any request the kid makes. I don't have anything against mothers who are like that but the kids either grow up to hate their mothers for doing that or become spoiled brats themselves, which is sad.
The one with the Meena Kumari Complex-
I love Matru Ki Bijli Ka Mandola for bringing out this concept, if you've watched it you will know what I mean. Or else here is the samosapedia definition, A tribute to the legendary actress Meena Kumari who was a beautiful actress who across her career portrayed the tragic heroine, who longed and suffered in her appearances in films, a stark similarity to her own alcohol ridden life. Just like her these mothers are always stuck in discoursing about their troubled past. Either talking about it is therapeutic to these mothers, or it is just that they find solace in tragedy-speak. I don't know!
The one who is old-
No, I don't mean mothers who are old enough to be grandmothers, no. I mean those mothers who desire to look young. I seriously don't understand the point of anyone who "desires" to look younger let alone mothers, because you "want to look younger" implies you think you are old. So, as long as you try on the cosmetics and treatments all you are seeing is a fake version of yourself. You are still old at heart. The problem arises when these mothers compete with their kids to look as young as them, the over makeup and accessories are a sore sight indeed.
The peculiar perfectionist-
We all know the perfectionist. The one who works tirelessly to ensure everything's right for the kids. Also, imposes oneself on the kids so they seem perfect to her rather than the kids' perfection perspective. This mom will have no issues with her conscience if the kid goes the wrong path, because she is clear that she has always done what's best she thinks for her kid. The peculiar part is the kids will be a perfect representation of their mom! :D
The make-believe Modernista-
Ha, this needs a little explanation. This kind of mom is totally weird. I'll give you some conversations that these mothers normally have. Imagine you have a football background in your laptop, this mom will remark, "In your age boys obsess about hot girls, and you are behind football." Imagine you say you don't do alcohol and the remark will be, "Really? Why? This is the age for youth to enjoy, you should have fun and all!" You get totally weirded out by these mothers because the way they say all that feels like they don't actually mean it. They are just saying it to appease the newer generation. These mothers overtly try to push themselves into the new trends just to keep up with the new generation even if it doesn't suit them.
The one child wonder-
Ya, those kids with one mother. Wait, lol! I mean those mothers with just one kid. I pity these mothers. Because if there are siblings, the siblings fill the void of brother/sister, friend, and if the sibling is elder then even the caretaker. If that sibling is absent, the mother holds the responsibility of being all that. This mother evades into those spaces of the kid that are not normally ventured into by mothers. This makes the mother become so much involved in the child that letting go of the child when the time comes becomes a bane, and this is actually bad for the child.
The others-
There are many other kinds too. There are supermoms who continue their careers whilst looking after their kids passionately. There is the abusive kind. The one who is depressed or even alcoholic, the kind I've seen only in the movies but I do believe they exist. There are others who find solace only in their children. Like Cersei Lannister from Game of thrones says, "The more people you love, the weaker you are. You’ll do things for them that you know you shouldn’t do. You’ll act the fool to make them happy, to keep them safe. Love no one but your children."
The reason I wrote about mothers is not because I have a mother complex, no! It just feels incredibly funny that mothers are such complex creatures that you wont find a normal one around. Or is it that we have to define normalcy for each and every mother? You might hate them or not, but mothers are essential.
Thats the beauty of it! :)
Well, recently I returned home and you quickly notice that the biggest difference between your hostel and your home is the presence of that earthly creature that is, your mom. :D There are many kinds of moms around. If you observe closely you can see these features in some mothers.
The mothers who smother-
There are mothers who smother their children with affection( please read: more than required). Yes, more than required. They always think the kids are the apple of their eyes and they need to satisfy any request the kid makes. I don't have anything against mothers who are like that but the kids either grow up to hate their mothers for doing that or become spoiled brats themselves, which is sad.
The one with the Meena Kumari Complex-
I love Matru Ki Bijli Ka Mandola for bringing out this concept, if you've watched it you will know what I mean. Or else here is the samosapedia definition, A tribute to the legendary actress Meena Kumari who was a beautiful actress who across her career portrayed the tragic heroine, who longed and suffered in her appearances in films, a stark similarity to her own alcohol ridden life. Just like her these mothers are always stuck in discoursing about their troubled past. Either talking about it is therapeutic to these mothers, or it is just that they find solace in tragedy-speak. I don't know!
The one who is old-
No, I don't mean mothers who are old enough to be grandmothers, no. I mean those mothers who desire to look young. I seriously don't understand the point of anyone who "desires" to look younger let alone mothers, because you "want to look younger" implies you think you are old. So, as long as you try on the cosmetics and treatments all you are seeing is a fake version of yourself. You are still old at heart. The problem arises when these mothers compete with their kids to look as young as them, the over makeup and accessories are a sore sight indeed.
The peculiar perfectionist-
We all know the perfectionist. The one who works tirelessly to ensure everything's right for the kids. Also, imposes oneself on the kids so they seem perfect to her rather than the kids' perfection perspective. This mom will have no issues with her conscience if the kid goes the wrong path, because she is clear that she has always done what's best she thinks for her kid. The peculiar part is the kids will be a perfect representation of their mom! :D
The make-believe Modernista-
Ha, this needs a little explanation. This kind of mom is totally weird. I'll give you some conversations that these mothers normally have. Imagine you have a football background in your laptop, this mom will remark, "In your age boys obsess about hot girls, and you are behind football." Imagine you say you don't do alcohol and the remark will be, "Really? Why? This is the age for youth to enjoy, you should have fun and all!" You get totally weirded out by these mothers because the way they say all that feels like they don't actually mean it. They are just saying it to appease the newer generation. These mothers overtly try to push themselves into the new trends just to keep up with the new generation even if it doesn't suit them.
The one child wonder-
Ya, those kids with one mother. Wait, lol! I mean those mothers with just one kid. I pity these mothers. Because if there are siblings, the siblings fill the void of brother/sister, friend, and if the sibling is elder then even the caretaker. If that sibling is absent, the mother holds the responsibility of being all that. This mother evades into those spaces of the kid that are not normally ventured into by mothers. This makes the mother become so much involved in the child that letting go of the child when the time comes becomes a bane, and this is actually bad for the child.
The others-
There are many other kinds too. There are supermoms who continue their careers whilst looking after their kids passionately. There is the abusive kind. The one who is depressed or even alcoholic, the kind I've seen only in the movies but I do believe they exist. There are others who find solace only in their children. Like Cersei Lannister from Game of thrones says, "The more people you love, the weaker you are. You’ll do things for them that you know you shouldn’t do. You’ll act the fool to make them happy, to keep them safe. Love no one but your children."
The reason I wrote about mothers is not because I have a mother complex, no! It just feels incredibly funny that mothers are such complex creatures that you wont find a normal one around. Or is it that we have to define normalcy for each and every mother? You might hate them or not, but mothers are essential.
Thats the beauty of it! :)
